TO BE? … OR … NOT TO BE?

14 year old Sue was in that “awkward” phase of life, like “I’m not a girl, not yet a woman” kind of one. She was trying to find herself or rather where she fitted in, in this world.

She wasn’t exactly the “belle of any ball” but neither was she the “ugly duckling”… She was still figuring it all out.

Her body was growing expectedly and so was her mind. She had already been crushing on boys for a few years now but never really had the courage to approach any of them. She was never approached because all her guy friends considered her as one of them and this she hated the most about her life.

Sue’s best friends would talk about the guys they were dating and how they were sneaking around during school and tuition hours to meet each other. Sue could not relate and her “decent girl” character would have definitely not allowed her to do any such disreputable thing.

Sue had just chosen her courses at school and one of her selections was computer programming. Though she was quite techno-savy, she didn’t quite understand the nityy-gritty and theories behind programming.

Her parents were concerned and their tight budget didn’t allow them to send Sue for extra tuition classes.

Now Sue came from a large family with gangs of cousins who she had varrying degrees of likes and dislikes for, for reasons she best knew. She was however fond of her cousin Jasper and he literally lived in his room, working on his computer and messing arround with all his fancy computer gadgetry.

Everyone knew Jasper was a fundi in computers and as Sue had thought, her parents suggested that she spend time with Jasper on a regular basis to learn more about this computer programming.

Jasper was an extremely good-looking 16 year old and he knew it very well. His egotistic and almost arrogant behaviour showed it. He was not one for family, especially extended family and neither did he have many friends. He was however, always close to Sue and in fact, she was the one you would always find him around at family gatherings.

Sue’s parents approached Jasper and his parents about him teaching Sue more about computers and all parties were only too happy to do so.

Jasper would spend 3-4 hours with Sue 2 or 3 times for the first week, teaching her and showing her what they called “cool stuff” about computers. She was learning well.

One night as Sue lay in her bed rehashing the afternoon spent with Jasper, she suddenly started to feel butterflies. Was she attracted to him??? Her cousin!!?? She asked herself this over and over, trying to shrug it off.

She texted him and a general conversation about computers suddenly ended up about Jasper telling Sue how beautiful she was and that if any guy didn’t think she was sexy, something was wrong with him. This weirdly excited Sue and her butterflies would not go away.

The next day, even though it was not arranged, Sue pitched up at Jasper’s house and headed straight to his room. He had just gotten out of the bath and was wearing only a pair of boxers. Sue felt a flutter in her tummy as she oogled at his 6 pack muscles and defined arms and chest. She turned away and apologised for barging in… he stopped her and asked her to come in, closing the door behind her.

He had gotten rid of the second chair in his room as his parents ordered a new, more comfortable one for Sue to use when she came over. Jasper sat down on his chair at his desk and explained that if Sue sat on the bed, she wouldn’t catch on to what he was teaching her. He patted his leg and propersitioned her to sit on his lap.

Sue giggled and eventually gave in… there she was in front of the computer, on Jasper’s lap. She was uncomfortably comfortable and sort of enjoyed being there. No sooner, Jasper bent into Sue’s hair and complimented her on how nice it smelt. He then put his hands around her tummy, moving them upward. She could feel that he was really aroused and she knew she was too… somewhere at the back of her mind, she knew it was wrong what was happening but she wanted what was happening more than having to “kill the moment” by over thinking it.

They moved to the bed where Jasper deep kissed Sue whilst heavy-petting her.

There was a moment of ecstasy for both of them before reality set in and they realised what had happened.

Sue left immediately. Jasper desperately trying to get hold of her, text after text assuring her that it was their “secret”. She never responded.

Sue’s parents noticed that her behaviour was off-ish but never bothered to ask, putting it down to yet another “teenage mood swing”.

That night Sue was up all night and all she could think about was Japser and their escapade together. The more she tried to get rid of the thoughts, the more she yearned to be with him again.

It was the weekend and Jasper had called Sue’s parents telling them that he would like Sue to use her own computer to learn on and so he was coming to spend the weekend at their place. They were only too happy to have him over.

When Sue saw Jasper and learned that he will be staying over and sharing her room, she almost passed out from excitment and fear, of course. She was definitely glad to see him though.

Sue’s parents found every opportunity to go out and leave Sue in Jasper’s care which meant that the two had ample “alone time” with each other.

In bed, they would kiss and fondle each other and sought great pleasure from the feeling. This continued for months and before long, they were, what they thought was being “in love” with each other… Finding every excuse to be together.

Other cousins and family members questioned the closeness these two shared and Sue and Jasper’s parents proudly explained what a great teacher and help Jasper was to Sue.

It was Sue’s 16th birthday and whilst getting ready, Sue’s mother walked into her room and caught Jasper busy nibbling away at her neck. Sue’s Mom fainted from shock and a somewhat of a commotion broke out too.

Sue’s Dad and Jasper’s parents tried to kwel the situation and keep the guests occupied and unknown to the truth. Due to Sue’s mother passing out, the party was cancelled and the guests left.

Jasper and Sue had some serious explaining to do to their parents who were ready to murder them. Without much detail, Jasper apologised and said it “just happened once and in a fit of the moment”. This severed ties between the families and Sue never got to see Jasper again.

Jasper turned out to be even more rebellious than before, he got addicted to alcohol and drugs which he grew illegally. This destructive behaviour diverted his mind away from Sue and his heart-ache. He was arrested by the police on many occassions too.

Sue turned inward and shut herself off completely from the world. She sought pleasure in cutting her wrists and thighs with sharp blades and was eventually admitted to a mental institution where she would have to live for life.

The moral of my story???…

Parents, we live in a dangerous world where NO ONE can be trusted.

Know where your children are and what they are doing at all times.

Children are manipulative so don’t be naive, become their confidant and spend quality time with them, educating them about life.

Children today are fearless, they act out as they please, their fear for what society thinks or what’s socially acceptable is withering down to almost beneath the ground.

Don’t blame them parents, take charge and force yourself to be a part of your child’s life no matter how busy a life you may lead, know their feelings, win their trust and stick up for them (you can cry when they’re asleep)…

Wake up parents and save your kids… Spare them the mental and physical agony which they are so ready to inflict upon themselves.

Wake up parents!!! Get with the times!!! You are living in your child’s world. Gone are the days when they lived in yours!!!

Save your Sue and Jasper… Save yourself!!!

It’s time to steer every Sue and Jasper in the right direction by being able to talk openly to your children, without shying away… it’s time to “grow yourself a pair” parents, before its too late!!!

***Mental Health’s prevalence is escalating steadily. Children are looking for any and all sorts of attention, give them the right sort by not only feeding their stomachs but by feeding their minds and souls too***.

Written By Riona Balgobind for all you children who feel trapped and so that parents can pay more attention!!!

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– CROSSROADS –

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Along the journey through my life

I stumbled upon someone who cannot be priced…

Reflecting on many moments of awe

I start to feel again those moments so pure…

Question after question keep running through my mind

Answers that perhaps I may never find…

As a tear or two roll down my cheek

I feel that lump in my throat that won’t let me speak…

Still flooding my mind are mirriads of doubts

None though of her, ever roam about…

I think of her and I smile with hope

As she is the one in whom my trust never broke…

Though circumstances have brought us to a crossroads

She knows that I love her loads…

Silence may often seep through the cracks

But my adoration for her, I shall never set back…

As she turns 20, I wish for her plenty…

A promising future

brimming with all the sunshine of nature…

Happy Birthday Kriti, You Special One

I’ll always pray the best for you till my days are done…

I hope for you to remember me only with fond memories

And for you to always smile on without any worries!!!

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEETHEART!!! God bless you and may you always be the apple of our eye!!! Wishing you a tremendously amazing year ahead. Stay blessed.

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Written For Kriti Dutta On Her 20th Birthday by Riona Balgobind – 07/02/2019

R.I.P STEREOTYPES AND BODY SHAMING!!!

Stereotyping and body shaming has suddenly moved 10 steps up on the ladder towards Depression and Suicide… and it’s accelerating pace is becoming the cause of many a lowered self-esteem in the youth of today.

Yes, aspiring to be what is the “norm” or simply wanting to “fit” into society is natural for anyone, however, who dictates what normalcy is??? Who is society? Who feeds into the trends of this world?… It all starts with you!!!

Firstly and most importantly, you need to accept yourself for whom you really are and not whom you’re pretending to be. When you have accepted yourself fully, you will start to love yourself, you will start to show interest in yourself and inevitably you will be the only person who will or will not allow yourself to be body-shamed or stereotyped.

Body sizes and shapes are different, they are circumstantial, genetic, illness related and self-inflicted in some cases… But who is to say that yours is better than mine??!!

It often boils down to the fact that by nature, humans are never satisfied with anything they have!!! The thin person wishes to be fuller, the fuller one wishes to be smaller and so the cycle continues…

Unfortunately for the fuller figured person, they somehow feel more inadeqaute when it comes to their bodies… why???… Because society and trends have dictated that a thinner person is sexier, healthier, more appealing, gets chosen as models and celebrities, has better clothing and the list goes on… contrary to what the fact is, mind you!!!

It’s time that the world opened their minds as much as they’ve opened their eyes and realise that life is not at all only about the thin person and them being the best…

A person should never be stereotyped for their body shape, rather, they should be look at for what their worth is.

Society, parents, teachers and colleagues please understand that when you say things like “lose some weight”, “you’re fat”, “woah you’re like a giant”… it hurts a person in ways that you perhaps may never understand. Place yourself in their situation and imagine them calling you “scarecrow”, “tooth-pick”, “bean pole”… would you enjoy that???!!! No right??? Even hypocrites, people who have the same body shape as the next, find it fit to shame someone. Saddest thing ever!!!

All these moments of hurt build up in a person and often their sense of hopelessness leads to depression and even suicide in many cases.

All people, regardless of the shape or size of your body… stop being so superficial… surely a person is worth more than their waist size??!!! No one is perfect, even if you think you may be… Everyone has an opinion but I urge you to preserve voicing that opinion if it’s going to degrade and hurt someone.

This struggle is real, I’m a fuller figured woman and I love myself more than anything, I feel sexy and so I am sexy, I never look at myself critically and therefore I’ve never given anyone an opportunity to criticize me. I love fashion and trends but I love my body too, enough to realize that perhaps my body shape won’t look as sexy in every new piece of fashionable clothing than it may in another… It’s all about you!!!…

I realize that not everyone is as confident, hence this blog, I write, is to urge families, societies and celebrities to encourage your loved ones to be the healthiest and happiest version of themselves, help motivate them and inspire them. Let us preserve lives with all the capability in us, natural disasters, crime and wars are claiming more than enough already.

*** This blog was written for my baby cousin and baby bro SJ … one girl and one boy… Yes, body shaming affects males as much as it does females ***.

NORMAL IS JUST A SETTING ON THE WASHING MACHINE!!!

From that moment on, John’s life changed forever…

It was a Monday morning and as usual it came with its hurricane of tasks to complete before entering the routined “start of week” meeting with his colleagues to strategize and plan the week ahead. He had been doing a million things at once and in the midst of all the “madness” that surrounded him, he felt what he imagined to be a “shudder in his head”, followed by an overwhelming but split second of disorientation and dizziness. He placed his sweaty palms on his desk top to steady himself as he lowered himself to his chair.

It occurred to him that he hadn’t eaten yet and maybe the lack of energy was causing his body to, what he felt like was, surrender.

Whilst he gulped down some hot, freshly cooked french fries from the canteen with some cola, he started to have that sensation again, except this time, it was much worse and lasted what seemed like eternity.

His throat started to narrow and close in, causing difficulty with breathing, his heart rate began to escalate, he was perspiring profusely, chest pain and numbing of the limbs started too… he was convinced he was having a heart attack!!!

To add to his woes, his stomache churned so violently, he almost didn’t make it to the toilet.

Sitting on that toilet seat, all he could do was pray to God and ask for forgiveness of his sins… he really felt like he was dying… his heart pumping so hard, he could feel it in his back.

He managed to clean himself up and barely pulled his pants on properly when his colleague walked into his office… Jim looked at John in astonishment and immediately Jim knew that something was seriously wrong with John. Jim got John into his car and started to head toward the nearest hospital, John being the stubborn man that he was, refused to be taken to hospital and insisted on going home, protesting that it was rest that he needed.

By now John had started to feel a bit of ease although he was far from well.

John spent the next few days at home, mostly in bed. Almost every 40-60 minutes he would have like a “hot flush” followed by all the symptoms like earlier and the need to rush to the toilet because of the runny bowels. John had noticed that his vision would blur, he would have excruciating, pounding headaches and felt nauseous too whilst all the other syptoms played out. He honestly felt like death was at his door… Banging on his door!!!

After 4 days of trying to fight this, John decided to visit his GP, who yelled at him for leaving this for so long. The GP diagnosed John with a gastric bug and acid reflux… prescribed a grocery list of meds for John and send him home to rest.

It had been 9 days and John was wilting away… no appetite, no energy, symptoms were all there… maybe even worse now than before, medication prescribed was completed… John could not go on like this any longer.

John’s girlfriend Michelle contacted their Physician as she felt he needed a specialised consultation. They went in. Dr Zee could not believe that John was this ill and that he had waited such a lengthy period of time before seeing him.

Dr Zee got John to do all the routine specialist tests… Urine samples, 5 sets of bloods, vitals check, ECG, a run on he treadmill… the works!!!

Using a laser scanner and an ultrasound machine, Dr Zee checked John’s heart, lungs, liver, kidneys, bowels…

All, each and every test result came back 100% clear and normal. John was surprised and concerned as he needed to know what was going on with him.

The Moment that changed John’s life forever… or rather the moment that changed his own outlook on his life came when Dr Zee explained to John that he is diagnosed with CHRONIC ANXIETY, PANIC ATTACKS and POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER (PTSD), which was stress related.

John felt like his entire life and career, all he had achieved tantamounted for nothing because now he was “Looney”. He had already started to label and dispise himself… feeling unworthy, powerless and disabled.

Dr Zee, patiently and very gently explained to John that he should not have any of those feelings… he explained that with the medication prescibed and with following certain coping skills and a simple change in lifestyle, John would be healthy and absolutely normal.

Whilst Dr Zee was explaining, John had already decided that he would stick to a healthier diet, one with more detox and antioxidants, he could do 6-8 cups of green tea a day and he would try the 10 minute cardio exercise program Dr Zee introduced him to… BUT… he wasn’t gonna take any of those “crazy pills”… he wasn’t a “Nut job” and didn’t need “happy pills” to make him better.

So, relieved, John came to the car and explained to Michelle that he was stressed out and needed to follow a new lifestyle… he deliberately chose not to mention to her about his actual diagnosis of Chronic Anxiety and PTSD… let alone the fact that he had to take meds coz he was “Psycho”… he wasn’t taking them anyway!!!

John continued to feel mild to major episodes of the conglomerate of symptoms and by now it had been 15 days that he hadn’t been to work… His Boss and colleagues were asking what had happened, a couple threatened to visit even, but John casually brushed them off claiming that he had a horrible bout of gastro which was highly contagious.

John would be up through the night, he would be praying as he didn’t know what else to do. Finally be went back to Dr Zee as he was convinced that something more was wrong with him. He went for more tests and all came back clear.

Dr Zee discovered that John hadn’t been taking his tablet and therefore hadn’t felt any relief… In fact, he had been diagnosed with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) years ago and that increases or triggers anxiety, thereby causing the heart rate to increase. John had been hospitalized for Supra Ventricular Tachi Cardia (SVT – rapid heart rate) before and the fact that he refused to take his newly presicibed meds, meant that he was setting himself up for many other complications.

The very “depressed” John agreed to take the “happy pill” or “crazy pill” as he refered to it.

He actually did start taking the pill, half a tiny tablet every night for the Anxiey and a tiny pill in the morning to maintain a steady heart beat, combined with his small lifestyle changes and coping skills, John was on his road to recovery.

John took some time to research, understand and accept his diagnosis and when he did, he embraced it like any other illness and took the correct medication to control it.

He learned that a Panic Attack/ Anxiety Attack mimics a cardiac arrest, hence the chest pain, shortness of breath, dizziness, disorientation and weakness… the anxiety causes an irritation in the colon/bowel (Irritable Bowel Syndrome – IBS) which causes the diarrhoea and the tension from it all causes the pounding headaches.

He also learned some life-saving copying skills which he follows religiously:

1. When you feel the anxiety coming on, massage your Corroted Artery gently, it helps with calming your heart rate down.

2. Stop what you’re doing, sit back, close your eyes and try saying the Alphabets backward – it diverts your mind.

3. Make yourself some green tea. Green tea has multiple health benefits and is a great calming agent.

John lives a perfectly normal life, he’s thriving at work, he married Michelle and they have 3 beautiful children, John was even promoted to being the Director of his company.

Mental illness is frowned upon and has major stigmas and labels attached to it… if only people took the time to undertsand that it is like any other dreaded disease which can be controlled with medication, a lot more people would live happier, more fulfilling lives like John is living now.

Your Mental Health Is Most Important… Take Care Of It And It Will Take Care Of You!!!

-Author: Miss Riona Balgobind (Social Work Therapist)-

MANMARZIYAAN – A SHORT SOUTH AFRICAN MOVIE REVIEW

Cast – Taapsee Pannu, Abhishek Bachchan and Vicky Kaushal in the lead.

Genre – Romantic Drama

Character Review

Taapsee Pannu as Rumi Bagga in the film – What a sterling performance yet again by this woman!!!

She is, for me, undoubtedly one of Bollywood’s finest actresses. She is head-strong about what she wants and she goes out and achieves it… similarly she does this in the movie too. Her role deliverance cannot be faulted. She is the epitome of “feminism” and as per her character, she renders out a full on “hardcore” Punjabi lover’s role. She switches her emotions with innate ease and her feisty character makes Rumi totally enjoyable to see on screen. There are moments where Rumi will bring you to tears and there are other moments when you literally want to strangle her but that’s the beauty of the talent this actress has to offer.

She is simply dressed, no excessive makeup, hair left almost all natural and she’s totally de-glam… Manmarziyaan shows off Taapsee’s natural beauty perfectly.

Extremely well done Taapsee for giving your audience yet another memorable performance and character to relate to.

Vicky Kaushal as Vicky Sandhu in the film – Wow!!! What a visual transformation. Vicky’s physique is jaw-dropping and his experiments with his hair is fantastic and laudable. Vicky as the character is rather obnoxious, you will want to shake some sense into him and get him to see the light and this is the beauty of Mr Kaushal’s acting… its very impactful!!! There are moments where he is endearing, however for the most, his rough, edgy, hooligan like character is superbly acted out!!! A role well executed.

Abishek Bachchan as Robbie Bhatia – Man, if only all men were as understanding and loveable as this character!!! Abhishek, what a fine fine fine role portrayal as Robbie you’ve delivered!!! Dressed as a sardar but with a Western mindset, Robbie will have every woman wishing she has him in her life. He’s very soft yet knows when to take a firm stand. Abhishek’s ability to act is pure genius!!!

Story – The story was nothing unusual but the Writer and Director made some really smart additions to a few otherwise pretty normal scenes. The story plays out such that you get carried away and by the end, you don’t want it to finish. The film’s actors honestly give birth and life to a pretty simple story with some rather hard-hitting, real life lessons to learn from.

Music – Amit Trivedi’s rendition of music for Manmarziyaan was epic to say the least!!!

From catchy to very touchy words accompanied by a mix of vibey and more soothing beats/tunes made for a beautiful musical album.

Overall Review – Manmarziyaan was an enjoyable watch that kept tugging at your heart-strings. It was an emotional rollercoaster, even for the audience which made if difficult to let go off at the end. The efforts and brilliance in terms of performance from the actors were exemplary and it’s definitely a film worth watching. Its still showing in cinemas so if you haven’t watched it yet, you should!!!

Rating – My rating of Manmarziyaan is
🌟🌟🌟🌟/5.

***A review by Riona Balgobind***

FRIVOLOUS LOVE!!!

LOVE… Once that sacred four letter word that was used only to describe the most heartfelt and intimate feelings, has now been diluted, watered-down to such an extent that it’s sacred value has been lost.

Yes we live in a world where transformations are occurring by the second and everyone has become more vociferous, more easy with how they verbalize their feelings and how they demonstrate it too… it’s not a bad thing, but of course, one has to consider the realty of it, the meaning of it and the context of it, otherwise there will nothing left of the word or the expression of LOVE anymore.

Love is akin to many a relationship, be it between lovers, parents and their children, siblings, love between friends and family, even you and your pet… but what I’m grappling to understand is how the sacredness of love is so casually demonstrated nowadays.

A random “love ya” or “love youuu sooo much” is shouted out or texted on public platforms amongst the youth today just like any other word… meaningless and without thought.

Coming from a profession where I deal with people, their personal lives and emotions, I can see why so many marriages are breaking down, why so many people are cheating on their partners and why so many friendships break up… it’s because the word LOVE with all its meaning, value, sacredness has become something meaningless, something of the past because of course there are newer, better things to “love”.

I’m all for love, but love in its purest form… the LOVE with meaning, emotion, promises, respect, commitment and adoration… Not the common current misconception of what love is…

More and more I see that love has been replaced by lust, attraction and fantasy… something that’s “in the moment” or “while the excitement lasts”. People today easily and readily say “I love you” but do they honestly mean it??!!! For most cases, I beg to differ.

Can there be love for someone you don’t know but who you chat with and feel a connection to?, of course there can be… so long as there is an understanding and mutual reciprocation.

If there is no reciprocation of love between people then it’s a fantasy, “make belief” world that you’re living in.

You may be wondering where I’m going with this? It’s simple… If only people took the time to understand the meaning of their words and actions, if only they thought before they spoke and if only they had the conviction of their courage to “man up” to the consequences that follow, the world will be a much saner and definitely more beautiful world. Marriages would last longer, there will be mutual respect between parents and children, between friends and fewer animals would suffer. The pain and emotional baggage of broken hearts would be spared and the stress, anxiety, depression and suicide rate would surely drop.

People it’s time to STOP and THINK before you act!!! Take time to BREATHE and step out of the crazy race of life and it’s trends today, to understand yourself first before afflicting others with the consequences of your shenanigans.

Resuscitate LOVE … bring it back to life … it’s the single most beautiful and precious thing that life has to offer, don’t desacralise or contaminate it!!!

DHADAK – FILM REVIEW (SOUTH AFRICA)

The much awaited day has finally arrived… For me, an almost 2 year long wait to see this movie come to fruition…

As an avid NRI Bollywood fan, catching the latest Hindi movie at the theatre was tradition almost… Lest to say that my favourite ones or rather my most anticipated ones would surely have me booking my tickets in advance, allowing me to get to the cinema for the first show on the first day, as with Dhadak.

Today I was fortunate enough to catch the premier of Dhadak at the Suncoast Sker-Kinekor Cinema (Durban, South Africa), as shown in the pictures above.

Now for the actual review of DHADAK…

CAST – LEAD ACTRESS AND ACTOR

The movie introduces JAHNVI KAPOOR as an actress. The young lady comes with a pretty impressive educational background and has had the word “Star” imprinted on her from even before she was born. Janhvi is the daughter of legendary actress Sridevi and actor/producer Boney Kapoor. Her brother Arjun Kapoor and cousins Sonam Kapoor and Harshvardhan Kapoor, togetehr with uncles Anil and Sanjay Kapoor all belong to the Bollywood fraternity and are super stars in their own right. Janhvi has an elder sister Anshula and a younger sister Khushi. Now how can Janhvi, who comes from THIS stock, not be magical as an artist??!! My review of her character portrayal will unfold further on in this blog.

ISHAAN KHATTER, younger brother of Bollywood’s finest actors Shahid Kapoor. Ishaan’s parents Rajesh Khatter and Neelima Azeem are actors and he’s also the step-son of iconic artists Pankaj Kapoor and Supriya Pathak. Ishaan’s debut performance was in his award winning film Beyond The Clouds which released not too long ago. The young artist gave us a glimpse of his tremendously impressive acting skill in the former mentioned film.

The off-screen chemistry between Janhvi and Ishaan has been so beautiful to watch that even before the movie was released, millions of fans and followers have decided that Dhadak WILL BE A SUPER-HIT!!!

DIRECTOR

The brainchild of Dhadak is Director SHASHANK KHAITAN, a multiple award winning film Director. From the glimpses of his interaction with both Janhvi and Ishaan, the Director’s love for his artists stands out very boldly. This love and almost nurturing relationship infiltrates through to the movie, making the film that more special when you watch it.

PRODUCER

Dhadak was Produced by KARAN JOHAR and was launched under the Dharma Productions banner. Apparently Karan spent a fair amount of time with Janhvi whilst going through the script and scenes. The multi-talented Johar is fond of both these newcomers and has kept a guiding hand over them.

STORY

As seen from the trailer, the story is much more than just a love story, though that sets the foundation that gets the ball rolling. There have been many questions asked as to whether Dhadak was a remake of the film Sairat, but it honestly is not. Yes the message is the same, however Shashank has told the story in his very own simple, natural and authentic version. Dhadak is truly only an adaptation of Sairat, it’s far from a remake. This was both refreshing and pleasing. The story was not extra-ordinary, its not one that we’ve not seen before, though what makes Dhadak such a winner is the purity in which the message of both first love and caste-killing is portrayed.

PARTHAVI

Three cheers and a standing ovation for Janhvi Kapoor and her performance as Parthavi in Dhadak. This girl is a master-piece. From her sometimes “dead-pan” expressions (which she inherits from her brother Arjun Kapoor) to a whole barrage of other unexpected expressions, Janhvi has aced her character portrayal and has done a squeaky clean-sweep as a Debut Actress. The most commendable thing is that Janhvi has given such a powerful performance in probably the most trying time in her life. Her face lights up the screen, her figure will make you wish you were her, her deep voice penetrates through you and her dynamic acting skill tops her off and officially declares her a STAR. Janhvi’s decison to take on such a role as her debut, one that’s far from the “glitz and glam” and one with such a hard-hitting message is exemplary and she deserves to take a bow for it. Personally, I cannot imagine any other actress, old or new, portray Parthavi’s character the way Janhvi did. Brilliant!!!

It’s hard not to see the uncanny resemblance Janhvi has of her Mom, Sridevi Ji and if your eyes were closed, you’d swear it was Sridevi Ji’s voice. Janhvi, your Mom is guaranteed to be smiling and oozing pride with what you’ve done as Parthavi and her blessings will forever be your guide.

MADHUKAR

Wow Ishaan, wow!!! Who are you? What are you? You are explosive!!! What a mind-blasting performance you’ve delivered as Madhukar. Your energy, your vibe, your knack for presicion and attention to detail, coupled with your good looks already makes you one of the finest actors of the last decade. How you’ve portrayed Madhukar will have any girl fall for him. Your dialogue deliverance and accents were absolutely on point. You honestly couldn’t have done anything more to portray Madhukar any more perfectly. Sterling performance Ishaan. Superlative!!!

SONGS

The songs in the movie are fantastic!!!

Dhadak Title – The tune, melody and lyrics truly do justice to the story of the film. If you think this song gives you feels now, wait till you’ve watched the movie, it’s something else!!! Really beautiful.

Zingaat – Add to playlist now if you havent done so already. What a remake of the original song. The vibey music, crazy choreography and fun depiction adds to how one can “rage it” to this song. Janhvi looks STUNNING in it and Ishaan’s moves and personality are too HOT to handle. Zingaat has the makings of being song of the year!!!

The hook-step of Zingaat was choreographed by thee FARAH KHAN KUNDER!!!

Pehli Baar – Brilliantly picturized!!! Soulful, super lyrics and one that will tug at your heart-strings!!!

SHOOT LOCATIONS

Shashank was 100% clear about where he wanted this film to be shot. This shows evidently in the film. Udaipur, Kolkata, Mumbai can be seen throughout Dhadak. The way the cities were captured has surely added to the beauty of the film.

OVERALL TAKE

For me, Dhadak was an experience, a harsh reality!!! I loved the facts that were given and I agree that messages like the one Dhadak gives, is something that definitely needs to reach the masses. I thoroughly enjoyed the film from beginning to end. Janhvi Kapoor and Ishaan Khatter are MAGNIFICENT and EXTREMELY TALENTED!!! You guys left me stuck to my seat with my hand over my mouth and numb, a good few minutes after the film was already done!!! 👌👌👌

RATING

⭐⭐⭐⭐1/2 out of 5!!! 👏👏👏

FINAL WORDS

Janhvi and Ishaan, you’ve gained another fan. Your outstanding work has drawn me to you and my respect for you as artists has plummeted over the top.

Here’s wishing you both, all the best for Dhadak and for all your future endeavours!!! Always stay true to the humans you are and you’ll keep giving such pure pieces of art.

NB

Those who haven’t yet met Janhvi Kapoor and Ishaan Khatter as Parthavi and Madhukar yet, PLEASE go to a cinema near you and experience this heart-wrenching journey that they will take you on NOW!!! Its not one that anyone should miss.

Super Well Done To Shashank, Janhvi, Ishaan and team DHADAK!!!