14 year old Sue was in that “awkward” phase of life, like “I’m not a girl, not yet a woman” kind of one. She was trying to find herself or rather where she fitted in, in this world.
She wasn’t exactly the “belle of any ball” but neither was she the “ugly duckling”… She was still figuring it all out.
Her body was growing expectedly and so was her mind. She had already been crushing on boys for a few years now but never really had the courage to approach any of them. She was never approached because all her guy friends considered her as one of them and this she hated the most about her life.
Sue’s best friends would talk about the guys they were dating and how they were sneaking around during school and tuition hours to meet each other. Sue could not relate and her “decent girl” character would have definitely not allowed her to do any such disreputable thing.
Sue had just chosen her courses at school and one of her selections was computer programming. Though she was quite techno-savy, she didn’t quite understand the nityy-gritty and theories behind programming.
Her parents were concerned and their tight budget didn’t allow them to send Sue for extra tuition classes.
Now Sue came from a large family with gangs of cousins who she had varrying degrees of likes and dislikes for, for reasons she best knew. She was however fond of her cousin Jasper and he literally lived in his room, working on his computer and messing arround with all his fancy computer gadgetry.
Everyone knew Jasper was a fundi in computers and as Sue had thought, her parents suggested that she spend time with Jasper on a regular basis to learn more about this computer programming.
Jasper was an extremely good-looking 16 year old and he knew it very well. His egotistic and almost arrogant behaviour showed it. He was not one for family, especially extended family and neither did he have many friends. He was however, always close to Sue and in fact, she was the one you would always find him around at family gatherings.
Sue’s parents approached Jasper and his parents about him teaching Sue more about computers and all parties were only too happy to do so.
Jasper would spend 3-4 hours with Sue 2 or 3 times for the first week, teaching her and showing her what they called “cool stuff” about computers. She was learning well.
One night as Sue lay in her bed rehashing the afternoon spent with Jasper, she suddenly started to feel butterflies. Was she attracted to him??? Her cousin!!?? She asked herself this over and over, trying to shrug it off.
She texted him and a general conversation about computers suddenly ended up about Jasper telling Sue how beautiful she was and that if any guy didn’t think she was sexy, something was wrong with him. This weirdly excited Sue and her butterflies would not go away.
The next day, even though it was not arranged, Sue pitched up at Jasper’s house and headed straight to his room. He had just gotten out of the bath and was wearing only a pair of boxers. Sue felt a flutter in her tummy as she oogled at his 6 pack muscles and defined arms and chest. She turned away and apologised for barging in… he stopped her and asked her to come in, closing the door behind her.
He had gotten rid of the second chair in his room as his parents ordered a new, more comfortable one for Sue to use when she came over. Jasper sat down on his chair at his desk and explained that if Sue sat on the bed, she wouldn’t catch on to what he was teaching her. He patted his leg and propersitioned her to sit on his lap.
Sue giggled and eventually gave in… there she was in front of the computer, on Jasper’s lap. She was uncomfortably comfortable and sort of enjoyed being there. No sooner, Jasper bent into Sue’s hair and complimented her on how nice it smelt. He then put his hands around her tummy, moving them upward. She could feel that he was really aroused and she knew she was too… somewhere at the back of her mind, she knew it was wrong what was happening but she wanted what was happening more than having to “kill the moment” by over thinking it.
They moved to the bed where Jasper deep kissed Sue whilst heavy-petting her.
There was a moment of ecstasy for both of them before reality set in and they realised what had happened.
Sue left immediately. Jasper desperately trying to get hold of her, text after text assuring her that it was their “secret”. She never responded.
Sue’s parents noticed that her behaviour was off-ish but never bothered to ask, putting it down to yet another “teenage mood swing”.
That night Sue was up all night and all she could think about was Japser and their escapade together. The more she tried to get rid of the thoughts, the more she yearned to be with him again.
It was the weekend and Jasper had called Sue’s parents telling them that he would like Sue to use her own computer to learn on and so he was coming to spend the weekend at their place. They were only too happy to have him over.
When Sue saw Jasper and learned that he will be staying over and sharing her room, she almost passed out from excitment and fear, of course. She was definitely glad to see him though.
Sue’s parents found every opportunity to go out and leave Sue in Jasper’s care which meant that the two had ample “alone time” with each other.
In bed, they would kiss and fondle each other and sought great pleasure from the feeling. This continued for months and before long, they were, what they thought was being “in love” with each other… Finding every excuse to be together.
Other cousins and family members questioned the closeness these two shared and Sue and Jasper’s parents proudly explained what a great teacher and help Jasper was to Sue.
It was Sue’s 16th birthday and whilst getting ready, Sue’s mother walked into her room and caught Jasper busy nibbling away at her neck. Sue’s Mom fainted from shock and a somewhat of a commotion broke out too.
Sue’s Dad and Jasper’s parents tried to kwel the situation and keep the guests occupied and unknown to the truth. Due to Sue’s mother passing out, the party was cancelled and the guests left.
Jasper and Sue had some serious explaining to do to their parents who were ready to murder them. Without much detail, Jasper apologised and said it “just happened once and in a fit of the moment”. This severed ties between the families and Sue never got to see Jasper again.
Jasper turned out to be even more rebellious than before, he got addicted to alcohol and drugs which he grew illegally. This destructive behaviour diverted his mind away from Sue and his heart-ache. He was arrested by the police on many occassions too.
Sue turned inward and shut herself off completely from the world. She sought pleasure in cutting her wrists and thighs with sharp blades and was eventually admitted to a mental institution where she would have to live for life.
The moral of my story???…
Parents, we live in a dangerous world where NO ONE can be trusted.
Know where your children are and what they are doing at all times.
Children are manipulative so don’t be naive, become their confidant and spend quality time with them, educating them about life.
Children today are fearless, they act out as they please, their fear for what society thinks or what’s socially acceptable is withering down to almost beneath the ground.
Don’t blame them parents, take charge and force yourself to be a part of your child’s life no matter how busy a life you may lead, know their feelings, win their trust and stick up for them (you can cry when they’re asleep)…
Wake up parents and save your kids… Spare them the mental and physical agony which they are so ready to inflict upon themselves.
Wake up parents!!! Get with the times!!! You are living in your child’s world. Gone are the days when they lived in yours!!!
Save your Sue and Jasper… Save yourself!!!
It’s time to steer every Sue and Jasper in the right direction by being able to talk openly to your children, without shying away… it’s time to “grow yourself a pair” parents, before its too late!!!
***Mental Health’s prevalence is escalating steadily. Children are looking for any and all sorts of attention, give them the right sort by not only feeding their stomachs but by feeding their minds and souls too***.
Written By Riona Balgobind for all you children who feel trapped and so that parents can pay more attention!!!